Parenting books- your best guide

Parenting has always been mixed bag of feelings. It is one of the most precious and at the same time most demanding experience. We all form strategies to raise our kids but this can backfire. At times we are lost and we do not know what to do. To help us understand our child and all the aspects of parenting there are many parenting books which cover various child related and parent related topics in depth. A good book can be your best help to raise your child. The market is full of these books and magazines but not all provide useful information. Find a book that deals with your problem and helps you to find a solution.

               

Parenting books refer and discuss topics including sibling rivalry, temper tantrums, bedtime struggle, homework challenges, morning chaos, disrespectful, money struggle, toddler problems, parenting burn out and what to expect in first year and many more. Refer to books that are fun to read, offer parenting advice that works and gives an insight into simple to most difficult problem. Always keep realistic goals and don’t expect that when you implement what you have read on to your kids they will change overnight. With constant efforts you will see change over a period of time. By using advices from these books and putting into effort day by day you will see positive change in your children and be proud of them.

Parenting books should be practical, realistic and easy to understand resource for dealing with different behaviors of the children. These books are available on topics like understanding the power of ‘networking’ to the importance of time management with kids, general parenting and parents of teen, parenting books for parents for all ages, parenting books on school, college, career and testing and special topics. These books should help you to have all the tools to recognize the problem, treat it properly and prevent it from happening again. They should help to promote greater self-confidence, effective coping skills and improved quality of life. Irrespective of your child’s personality you will find various options for way to connect with your child and helping her to make better choices.

With so much option available in the market it is easy to get confused. There is myriad of options to select from. It is better to select a book that is recommended by the parents and you can easily find them by reading parents forums, reviews and columns. Some of the best rated books are:

-     Dealing with Disappointment by Elizabeth Crary,

-     How to talk so kids will listen and listen so kids will talk by Adele Faber

-     Unconditional Parenting by Alfie Cohen

-     Parenting with Love and Logic by Foster W. Cline and Jim Fay. 

-     Positive pushing: how to raise a successful and happy child by Dr. Jim Taylor,

-     What every 21^st century parent needs to know by Debra.W. Haffner,

-     Video games and your kids: how parents stay in control by Hilarie Cash, PhD, and Kim McDaniel, MA  

-     Dancing with my daughter by Jayne Jaudon Ferrer.

Parenting books offers a hands-on approach to help parents improve the dynamics in their own families and get comfort in knowing that they are not alone in their struggles and concerns. It helps them to gain a better perspective on their child’s emotional, spiritual, intellectual and physical development.

Tips on parenting toddlers

Toddlers can be the most demanding and this can be the most trying times for the parenting toddlers. This age requires more patience and finesse in you to get cooperation from your child. This is so as the child is in transit phase and he has not reached the age here he can see and comprehend the whole picture. Reasoning with them is fruitless and only helps you in getting more frustrated. You can overcome this situation by changing your approach. The technique is to capitalize on your child’ s imagination and remove the negative emotions. Add fun experience by exploring wildest child fantasy.

To discipline the toddler is the most difficult thing as they are constantly trying to test the

boundaries. They should be made aware of these boundaries and a consistent behavior

should be followed when they cross them. Usually it is seen that initially when these

limits are set there is too much of crying, testing and increase in misbehavior to test your

limits. To discipline them you need to lay a foundation by building and strengthening the

connection between you and your child. It is easy for the child to accept the limits set by

you if she trusts you to meet her needs.

Parenting toddlers between 1-5 years needs great efforts. Some of the ways to discipline

them are ignoring temper tantrums. It is very important that the parent keeps peace during

that time. You can calmly tell the child that you can’ t hear her or you don’ t like temper

tantrums and hence will talk only after it is over. This will let the child know that her

behavior is not affecting you. With practice and persistence it can be changed to calm and

quiet situation. Distract and divert them from their original intention is the best way to

handle the situation. You need to encourage cooperation and this can be best done by you setting an example and talking politely to the child.

Setting limits with toddlers is very important and this depends upon your ability to do so.

You need to achieve the right balance between freedoms and constrain. It teaches them of

the fact that world is full of yes and no. Structuring the child’ s environment is necessary

and restructuring is needed at all developmental levels. These set the stage for desirable

behavior over the undesirable ones. Positive reinforcement is the most important part

of parenting toddlers. This works far better than punishments. Do not just scold them

for the wrong they do, but reward them for the right done. Avoid using ‘ No’ as much as

possible.

There are many parents who go through different problems of raising their toddler and

they don’ t know how to go about it. Some people have also recognized the need for

efficient, educational and comprehensive website for the parents which can act as a

support system to all their queries. Parenting toddlers support is very important to let

out your frustrations and some futile attempts to deal with your child. There are many

forums where parents share their experience and the help you to handle your toddler

more tactfully. There are many in depth articles to deal with different situations like

potty, training, sleep problems, temper tantrums and activities that they enjoy. It is also

important to have support of grandparents as it helps to have someone you can trust if

you have to leave your child. 

Parenting toddlers is a difficult task but these experiences are also beautiful moments that will live on in your memory long after your child has grown.

All about single parenting

Parenting by itself is quiet demanding. If you are a single parent this can be more difficult

as you have double responsibility. Inspite of these facts the single parent family has

shown a steep rise. In US alone 59 % have lived in a single parent home. The good

communication within the family and the social network and support to the family

actually plays a vital role in deciding the outcomes of these families. These situations

arise most of the time due to divorce but it is not the only reason. It can happen in

the event of death of a partner, adoption of child by single men and women and early

pregnancy which is very common with teenagers.

Single parenting is considered to be the most concerning issues to conservative people.

Effects of single parenting can be both positive and negative. The most noticeable

negative effect on these children is a significant drop out on their performance level.

They also develop negative attitude towards life which affects their academics and

extracurricular performances. But this holds true as tragic effect of sudden single

parenting. The kids of single parents are invariably more independent on the positive

side. There is stronger bond between the parent and the child. There are many factors

that can have varied effects on these kids: the parent’ s education level, age, occupation,

family income, family’ support and friends network.

Single parenting tips are beneficial to single men and women. The toughest part is getting

through first year single. You will have to make decisions you never thought you will

have to and gather strength you did not know you possessed. Some helpful tips can make

this difficult time easy for you: develop a support network that you know you can depend

on. This is absolute crucial. Be emotionally present with your kids while spending time

with them. To bring healing, hope and perspective spend time alone. Gather necessary

facts about your situation and make an informed decision. Grieve out your feelings and

spent time with your friend or a date to vent it out. Have positive attitude even during most

testing times.

It is never thought as a bonus to raise children as a single parent. Most of time people

talk about negative effects with single parenting. But this does not hold true always

as there are some positive effects also. The parent has stronger bond with the children

and it does not end when they become 18 year old. These children understand their

responsibility and help them to realize early the value of their contribution and thus they

gain self confidence and pride in their own work. Since they have seen conflicts and

disappointments early in their life they learn early to deal with their disappointments. Since these kids are never treated as the center of attention, they are more prepared for the real world.